Anal sex is everywhere these days. Once taboo and certainly never discussed, now, thanks to the proliferation of porn, it is everywhere. 

I remember in my early 20's asking a guy why anal sex was a so important, also remember back then it was not common place like it is today. You know what he said? If they could put it in our ears they would! 

Data from PornHub reveals that from 2009 to 2015, search volume for anal sex videos skyrocketed by 120 percent. This is more of a reality than just fantasy,  a 2017 survey of over 3,000 sexually active millennials shows that 35 percent of women and 15 percent of men are engaging in anal sex "at least some of the time."

Now, lets get a few things straight - if you don't want to do it, it is entirely up to you, your body is yours and you have sex for your enjoyment and pleasure not for others to fulfil a fantasy.

And some people who do try anal sex hate it and are in immense pain. Others, however, really enjoy it.

If you are curious here are a few personal tips that I have learnt along the way:

Always ensure you have had a bowel movement before you start any anal play.

Lubricant, lubricant, lubricant - you will both need A LOT. You have no way of making any natural lubrication so you will need help of you will be in pain and may tear. There are anal specific lubricants that are thicker to help with penetration. 

Foreplay - this is a major factor in minimising any pain and maximising pleasure. You muscles will relax allowing penetration to happen easily. 

Don't force it - If you are the penetrator, don't keep forcing yourself in if you notice any resistance. This can lead to internal damage. Your partner will relax if you are relaxed, so be patient. If you are kind and giving during this time it will make the experience enjoyable for both. Also, no sneaky slips in. Never. 

Size does matter - If it is your first time and your parter is pretty big, you may need to do some 'anal training' by introducing butt plugs into the bedroom in readiness to explore anal play. Either a beginner butt plug or medium sized, like the Dorcel Luxury Giesha Plug or the Unicorn Tails to add some colour, will provide assistance. As a side note the vaginal wall between fairly thin in this area so if you are have vaginal sex with the plug in your partner may have increased pleasure too!

Condoms and Cleanliness:  As the penetrator you may find it better to wear a condom to help prevent any UTI's. Clean yourself straight away and avoid any changing holes - this leads to UTI's.